I’ve never been involved in a romantic relationship before.  Shocking, I know, since I’m almost twenty-two years old.  I’ve had crushes and all, but since I’ve never actually had any experience on the field (…of love? *facepalm*) I’d have to say it does puzzle me a bit as to how everything works.

My parents have been married for over thirty years now and as far as I know it’s been a clean slate for the both of them.  I was born relatively late into the marriage so I don’t know if they’ve had any issues about fidelity when they were younger.  I really wouldn’t know because issues like those tend to be buried deep down into the unknown recesses of unconsciousness in this family.  Yes, we’re drones like that.

Anyways, they seem pretty happy.  And they’ve made it work for over the quarter of a century.  I guess it helps that they were both born in different times, and their courtship did last for seven years before they got married.  I don’t know; maybe it is all the more better when you’re made to wait for something.

I’ve seen many relationships go up in flames because of infidelity.  I guess it’s a good thing that they’re not marriages yet; this way, they at least don’t have to turn their backs on their words in the ‘‘til death do us part’ clause.  While I do sometimes agree with the relationship being put to an end, I still don’t get the whole infidelity bit.

Why do people cheat?  It just seems so cruel and heartless to me to do that to someone who you say you love.  Granted, you might not have been together for the longest time ever, but still, why do it? 

Okay, say you don’t love that other person anymore, so you cheat?  I get that you don’t love him/her anymore but why string her along for the pain?  Maybe that other person did it as well; he/she cheated on you so you’re going to get a piece of the action as well.  All I can say is, what are you, in fifth grade?  I don’t think life works quite like that when you’re past ten years old.  Or maybe you do still love him/her but you’ve made such a connection with this other person that you just can’t say no.  The sex/the conversations/the laughter is just something that you don’t have with that other person, and is it really so wrong to have the best of both worlds?  You just have this too big of a heart that you can love two people at the same time.  Hmm, not to burst your bubble, but I think you’re being greedy.   

I totally get that it’s part of human nature to want more of something.  More attention, more money, greater sex, more of everything.  It’s a constant in all people, I guess, at least in this generation, to just want more.  I suppose it is normal; we wouldn’t be able to strive for better things if we don’t want them.

I would hazard that the wanting more urges are part of our more primal selves; I guess it is part of the survival instinct to want the best of everything and anything.  And because of that, I would say that as a civilized human being you should at least have the decency to control said urges.  Man evolved for thousands of years into our state now, shouldn’t you evolve too?